Mom Guilt, it’s Nasty!

Mom guilt.

We all have it, it rears it’s ugly head the minute you become a parent.

It’s a struggle.

Something I struggle with from time to time but recently, it’s really been nasty.

I truly enjoy my calling and my profession, but work has really been busy, the hours and days are long. The minute I get home, it’s getting dinner ready and then on top of it trying to meet the needs of the three little people at home.

“Mommy will you read to me, Mommy, will you play with me?
Mommy will you wipe my butt, Mommy, Mommy, Mommy…”

It’s an endless need.

But at times it makes me hide in the closet, just to have 5 minutes where no one needs my help or assistance.

“Mommy what are you doing in there? Mommy can I come in too?”

“No”, I tell them softly, “Mommy, just needs a some Mommy alone time for a few minutes. ”

They usually understand and give me the few minutes to wind down from the day.

The guilt can be endless at times though.

I feel guilty for being away. Then guilty for enjoying work helping people, and being away. Then guilty for being with them wishing I could have a moment away.

BUT, one thing I learned – I can’t be everywhere and do everything and meet ALL of everyone’s needs. I am only one person and one wife/mom/ doctor.

I’ve learned to develop my boundaries.

If I need time alone, I take it.

Then when refreshed, I really enjoy and give quality un-disturbed time to my children. .Playing with them, reading to them, playing tickle monster with them.

I had to learn that I just take the time I have and make it wonderful. To be present when I am with them.

That is all I can do.

I am not superwoman, I’m only human.

And to be thankful for what I have for now.

I challenge you to take time for yourself when you need it.
We all, as parents, need this time.

Take it, don’t feel guilty.

Then when you are refreshed and ready – have fun with the littles and cherish the sweet moments.

One. Day. At a Time. 🙂

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